We live in a society where women are taught and expected to be sweet, kind and gentle and this indeed is an example of gender stereotype.
But you cannot deny that women have come a long way to be strong and self-independent. Now they do not want to settle down for anything and everything that comes in their way. In fact, they love to possess a go-getter attitude and perhaps, therefore, these days women do not refrain from asking men out.
While some women still let men ask them out, there are a few women who wouldn’t feel hesitant in making the first move. This is because they do not want to let go of someone who seems ‘the one’.
But if you are skeptical about whether women should make the first move by asking men out directly, then we are here with some reasons that will tell you the same.
1. We have the power to change what’s normal
Think of it like this: Just a few decades ago, it wasn’t “the norm” to have relationships exclusively meant for hooking up. It wasn’t “the norm” for a woman to live with a guy before she married him.
It wasn’t “the norm” for a woman to be able to sleep with whomever she wanted and not feel shame for still wearing a white dress on her wedding day.
However, slowly but surely, women before us started doing all of these things with increasing frequency, and they became more normal.
If we work together once again by changing the norm so that it’s OK for women to ask men out, we can give women even more choices when it comes to sex, love and relationships.
2. What’s the worst that could happen?
The worst that could happen if you ask a guy out is he’ll say no. If he says no, know that dudes have been told “no” since the beginning of the establishment of dating social norms and that, like those dudes, you’ll be fine! I promise.
If you get rejected, that guy just wants something different, which means you don’t want to date him anyway because you’ll spend your whole relationship convincing him to want your brand of you. And that’s just exhausting.
3. Guys want you to
Five out of five of the guys I just asked say they would love if a girl asked them on a date.
If that doesn’t convince you, Cosmo cites a survey that determined that 95 percent of guys think it’s hot if a girl asks them out. And I agree. The pressure of asking a girl out is a burden that dudes would be happy to get rid of.
4. What if he’s too shy to make a move?
Guys need a little confidence, too – and if he’s a shy dude, he might never make a move.
So, if you feel like you’re the more outgoing one between the two of you, take the burden off him and ask him out. He’ll probably feel relieved someone else did the work for him.
5. Knowing what you want and acting on it will make you feel sexy.
It sounds clichéd, but taking control of what you want is one of the most powerful things a woman can do.
We’ve been doing it in our careers, in our homes and our everyday lives, so why not do it for our relationships?
6. You’ll stop overanalyzing and finally get answers
If you keep overanalyzing his mixed signals, the best way to solidify an answer either way is to simply ask for one.
If you ask him out, you’ll get a yes or a no, and then you’ll be freed from driving yourself crazy interpreting the amount of question marks he put in his “What’s up??” text.
7. This is about you, too
Dating is a two-way street. When a guy asks you out, he makes a decision to size you up, to see if you’re a good fit for him.
But wouldn’t it be awesome if you got to be the one to decide to size him up, to see if he’s a good fit for you?
8. If nothing else, it’s practice
If you spend your entire life waiting patiently for people to give you what you want, you’ll be pretty unsatisfied. And having guts takes practice.
So, if all else fails, let this whole experience teach you a lesson in going for it. The next time you ask another guy out, it’ll be that much
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