The fact that many of us learn about male wet dreams as early as primary school s.e.x education yet can go our whole lives without learning about female wet dreams just goes to show how s.e.xist the education we receive still is. So, let’s get to the stuff we didn’t learn.
When you hear the phrase “wet dreams,” you usually think of something that happens to men. But they can actually happen to women, too (though they’re perhaps not quite as wet), and they’re more common than we realise.
It might seem odd that org@sms can require quite a bit of effort in your waking life yet come so easily (no pun intended) in your sleep. But our bodies don’t distinguish between dreaming and waking states. Some people can “think off,” but “dreaming off” is much easier. With our prefrontal cortexes suppressed, we’re not aware that it’s all just in our heads. When we have a scary dream, our hearts race, and similarly, when we have a sexxy dream, we get wet, and we may just org@sm.
Speaking of which, nocturnal org@sms almost always result from sexxy dreams. They’re not purely physical reactions. While dreaming of s.e.xual activity, the brain sends signals to our nerve endings down there that s.e.x is happening. So, it reacts as is it really were happening: blood rushes to the vag!na, it contracts and pulsates and eventually – ba da bing! You’ve had an org@sm.
Usually, you’ll know it if you’ve had a wet dream because the intensity of the org@sm – which tends to be just as high as waking org@sms – will wake you up.
Men are more likely to have them when they’re younger, while women have more as they get older. You’re also more likely to have them between periods, when you’re ovulating and your hormone levels lead to a surge in libido.
However, s.e.x dreams aren’t all that common altogether. One study found that college-aged men dream about s.e.x just nine times a year on average, and while it isn’t known exactly how common wet dreams are, many people don’t have them at all.
When people do have wet dreams, though, one theory proposes that they come from an increase of activity in the dopaminergic system, the brain’s reward centre, and a suppression of the prefrontal cortex, which normally controls s.e.xual urges.
Wet dreams can also have psychological roots, but don’t read too deeply into them. They don’t always reflect waking desires.
Some people, for instance, dream about having s.e.x with someone when what they really want is to be like that person. We most often dream of having s.e.x with someone we would never touch in that way because s.e.x in a dream isn’t as much about a physical union you want as it is about a psychological union you need.
When you dream of someone in that way, there is very likely something about them you need to incorporate into your own life or into your own behaviour. Perhaps they are very laid back and never seemed to be stressed about anything. That may be the quality your dreaming mind wants you to “connect” or “unite” with.
A s.e.x dream may also mean you’ve connected with somebody on some level, though not necessarily a s.e.xual level. For example, you may have recently had a meaningful conversation with the person, or perhaps you united and did a project together for work.
In these cases, the s.e.x dream sort of “consummates” the successful real-life connection or meeting of the minds. If that consummation leads to an org@sm, even better.
Source: IOL News
